Imagine a Gossip Free Workplace

Recently, one of my coaching clients (Frank) told me that there was too much drama in his office and he couldn’t concentrate. He had reached the point of questioning whether or not he wanted to stay at the company or look for a new job.

The culprit: Gossip.

Businessman Whispering to Businesswoman Gossip Free Workplace

The account executive who worked on Frank’s accounts had gone to another team member and complained that Frank was too bossy. Apparently, Frank was a bit of a perfectionist and he liked things done a very specific way. The account executive didn’t like this, but never said anything to Frank about it.

Eventually, Frank heard about this from other people, but being the “I don’t deal with office drama” type, continued to say nothing. This toxic situation actually started to effect the account executive’s performance. To top it all off, Frank felt uncomfortable asking her to do things, so he started doing her tasks himself. I told Frank that taking on her job duties was not the answer – he had to take control of the situation by addressing the gossip triangle.

The Gossip Triangle:

  1. Frank makes a request to Betty.
  2. Betty listens to the request and then tells Charlie how bossy Frank is.
  3. Charlie then goes to Frank to tell him he’s frustrating Betty.

Regardless of how bossy Frank may be, Betty and Charlie are in the in the wrong here. In order to stop the gossip triangle, complaints can only go one direction – up. Meaning that all complaints must be taken to a supervisor or better yet, back to the person you have an issue with. In other words, Betty should have taken her complaint to her supervisor or back to Frank. When Betty complained to Charlie (who had no control over the situation), she started the gossip triangle. When Charlie took it back to Frank, he completed it. Often times, it’s Charlie who gets the short straw because Betty gets upset at him for telling Frank and then Frank gets upset with Charlie for talking about him in the first place.

Creating a Gossip Free Workplace

You can stop the gossip triangle before it ever starts: when someone comes to you with gossip, be the bigger person, stop their story before they finish, and tell them to take the issue back to their supervisor or the person who wronged them. How can you tell when comments are just gossip? Gossip is any negative comment made to someone who can’t do anything about it.

I am familiar with organizations that have a ZERO tolerance policy for gossip. First offense is a warning; second offense is a lost job. I love that policy! Imagine how much office drama would go away if that were implemented where you work.

Sometimes, my coaching sessions that don’t have anything to do with sales turn out to be my favorites. Having Frank see that he could be back in control was awesome. He went back to Charlie and said, “Hey man, I don’t want you to be put in the middle of this. If you ever hear anyone talking about me again, will you tell them to come talk to me about it?”

Charlie’s response: “Sure! I’m sorry I didn’t do that in the first place.”

In the end, everybody won. They are all communicating better and Betty understands Frank’s need for perfection in a new way.

If Frank can do it, you can too – stop the gossip triangle and put an end to your office drama. Do your part to make a gossip free workplace a reality!

Until next time – go sell some stuff!


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